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B'nai Mitvah

Dear Parents,

Mazal Tov! This Hebrew phrase, used to convey congratulations, literally means "good luck." It is from an ancient idea that the stars, in proper alignment, influence our fortunes for good and for bad. Mazal is the star of fortune or fate or destiny -- and when we wish mazal tov we are wishing good fortune upon each other. And so we begin this journey with a mazal tov, as we will end it. Just as the day of the Bar/Bat Mitzvah is a moment for a congratulatory "mazal tov," so too is this moment, as you begin the journey, a "mazal tov" occasion. We want your journey toward preparing for this momentous day in the life of your family to be filled with good feelings, success, meaningful and enjoyable learning, and even, amidst the hard work, some fun!

But good fortune in such an endeavor does not come magically from heaven. We will create it together. It is our hope and our goal for you that we are able to provide advice, direction, assistance and guidance in all ways that will support you and make the process satisfying and happy and as relaxed as possible. Working together we can put the stars into alignment, making this journey transformative, joyous and holy.

I invite you to turn to me, to our Educational Director, and to our B'nai Mitzvah Coordinator, as well as the B'nai Mitzvah Committee for guidance and help. We have tried to thoughtfully and thoroughly consider all aspects of the process of planning and preparing for Bar/Bat Mitzvah in this handbook document. If anything is unclear, incomplete for your needs or problematic in your experience, please don't hesitate to let us know. We are committed to a partnership with you in making this day happen.

Good luck, mazal tov, and enjoy!

Rabbi Amy Joy Small

Welcome from Debbie Kaflowitz

The day your child becomes a Bar or Bat Mitzvah is a joyous occasion at CBH. The journey leading up to that day may seem complex at times, and you are likely to have many questions. As the B'nai Mitzvah coordinator, I am the "personal touch" available to clarify the process, answer questions, and even "hold your hand." I chair the B'nai Mitzvah committee, which is comprised of Rabbi Amy, our education director Nancy Hersh, and several members of the congregation. As a group, we work to guide the spiritual, educational, and logistical aspects of the process. Over the years, we have developed many valuable resources to help you during your journey. Feel free to contact me at any time. The best way to reach me is by email. I look forward to working with you as your prepare to celebrate this wonderful life cycle event.

Debbie Kaflowitz
B'nai Mitzvah Coordinator


Torah Blessings

Have your family or friends whom you are honoring with an Aliyah asked for for help in preparing? Here are links to the text and Rabbi Amy chanting the Torah blessings.


B'nai Mitvah Downloads

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Bar/Bat Mitzvah Guide

Honors Assignments form

Bar/Bat Mitzvah Timeline

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